I think its because of all the new demands on your life that comes with a baby. I can barely manage now as a mother. Ok, I do more than manage. But my point is that if I was to have had a kid when I was a teen, I might not be able to handle it. Your life is yours then and now you have another life to take care of.
This life depends on you and if you dont acquire the proper skills and information you aren't prepared. I thought I was prepared, at 24 married, college education, all my ducks in a row.... I THOUGHT i knew what a baby would mean and what I would have to do, but I had NO CLUE. And as much as you like you cant give the baby back.
Do you have a copy of that DVD? I might want to see it! Did it help you?Why should it be so important for teenagers who have newborns to watch an educational dvd.?
Some hospitals make all moms watch dvds or videos or something. They just want to make sure the moms know what they're doing. Why they single out teenagers I'm not sure.
All first time mother should get to watch it, just because there teenages doesn't mean they have no clue, who are our trusted babysitter (that are cheap)?
there's so much parents don't know. just reading this board is heartbreaking. parents seem to want infants and toddlers to be independent, instead of wanting to love and nurture them when they are so needy and help them be strong and independent by having given them a strong foundation.
breastmilk is so superior to formula, people need to know that. formula lowers iq and increases risk for diabetes and colic and some cancers.
people need to know that infants are harmed by more than 10 hours a week separation from mother - but the film isn't likely to tell you that that research has been duplicated over and over for 50 years with the same results. daddy is less approving of children when they separate from mommy before age one, mommy is less attached to baby, and baby is less attached to mommy. very sad and predictable result from any separation of mommy and baby more than ten hours week.
parents need to know that it damages a baby to be left alone to cry, that baby's brain cells only form connections when the baby is held, that babies shouldn't be punished, that up until 8 months old, the baby doesn't even know he/she is a separate person from mommy...
they need to know to never ever shake a child.
they need to know that you make a baby smart by nursing her on demand for at least two years, holding him whenever he wants to be held, learning to read his/her signals so that good communication can be set up.
they need to know that sleeping with your baby helps nursing suceed - so do the good people at la leche league.org - and helps prevent lots of other problems, that the crib is a new and silly invention in the scale of human history.
they need to know that hitting and yelling hurt bonding, lower the iq, and don't teach self-discipline.
jeepers, there's so much...
i wish all parents had to learn about the true needs of babies.
All first time mothers should watch the video. I know after I had my 2nd child I still had to watch the videos before I left..lol. Age doesnt determine if your gonna be a good mom or not. It depends on weather your ready to settle down and do it. I had my first baby at 17 everyone always said i was a good mom and they still do.
same reason its so important for adults who have newborns to watch educational dvds. to educate. thats what the hospital does. not only do they care for you and your family but they also teach patients what to expect, when to seek help, and what to do. you cant leave the hospital without receiving discharge instructions, for anything that you may be there for. and because they want that baby to survive and thrive and the best way to promote that is through good education.
Why single out teenagers? I had my first child at 26, now 5 years later I still attend parenting classes every week. I am constantly learning new ways of parenting, how to cope and what is best for my children and myself!
The hospital I went to everyone watches the video.Its the hospitals preference. If a hospital has alot of young mothers there more likely to have them watch it then those who have other children or are older. Honestly I think all new mothers should watch it.
It should be watched before they went out to make that baby.
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