Our older son had one in his room at 17 and his grades went down. We threatened to remove it if the grades didn't improve and they did.
Our 13 year old son also wants one in his room (mainly because his brother has one) but I am not convinced that it's a good idea. He has already been caught on the family computer going to sites where he's not supposed to be and where he has been told not to go, so I don't think he's old enough for the responsibility.
If you have doubts, don't do it. Keep your family computer in a public room where you can keep an eye on things. If you trust your child, then go ahead with it but it won't do any harm to stick your head in there once in a while unannounced just to keep them on their toes.
My feeling is that you are the parent and they are the child, and there's too much out there that's bad for them. But again it depends on the child.
Best wishes.Do you think parents should allow teenagers to have a computer with internet in their room?
Sure, why not?
They can get access almost everywhere, get drugs everywhere, booze everywhere, porn everywhere. Restriction is not a solution. I let my kids make their own decisions, I've educated them to make the right choices. They're adults now (or close to) and I don't regret my decision.
But I give you that it's a lot easier not to educate them, not to care and put everything under locks.
Education takes a lot of personal time, dedication, effort and care. If you can't take your son for a walk and have a (real) conversation with him, you're doing it wrong.Do you think parents should allow teenagers to have a computer with internet in their room?
it would depend on the teen, and how much you check on them and what they are doing and who they are talking to, i have two teens with there own computer they have signed a contract and so have my hubby and i we down loaded it from dateline, we are very involved in what goes on and have open door policy
Why not? Despite common belief, teenagers do not go off with the first person they meet online. This is usually caused by RESTRICTIVE parents.
Okay so, you are sixteen. You are not allowed to date until eighteen, you cannot go out without a parent, you cannot drive even though the driving age is sixteen, you meet some guy online who promises to let you do all of those things.
What do you say?
**** yes?
I've watched Dateline too many times! No way is that ok!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Parents, PLEASE, DON'T DO IT!!!!!
Lot's of families have a computer in a general area which anyone in the household can use. That way parents can monitor what their kids are doing.
no, there are so many bad things they can get into. It is better for you to be there to monitor.
i will probably let my kids have computer with internet in their room once they become teenagers. i will also but up a blocker to block a lot of stuff they shoulden't get into, as well as look on their computer from time to time just to make sure.
The older my kids get (they are almost 7 and 10.5) I think no. I've seen too many bad things that kids can get involved with on the internet on TV news shows. The computer needs to be where its use can be monitored by the parents.
nope . my son will never have a pc in his room the computer is always in the family room(living room)
thats asking for trouble. anyone under 18 should be monitored on the net
No they are just asking for trouble. It needs to be in a space where it can be monitored and enjoyed by the entire family!
well i think they can be able to have one but to a certain extent
they should not be on there all the time
and the parents should know what they are doing and who they are talking to
ecspecially if their child has myspace and or instant messaging
if they are positive the kid is being safe on there then they can have one
but they should be allowed only a certain amount of time on there
Wow, what a bunch of morons answering. Who gives a ****? If parents are gonna restrict their kids so much then the kids usually try to reach out to someone, and who would like children to reach out to them? A ******* child molestor you assholes. I have a computer in my room with internet, so do all my friends. We don't go off trying to meet horny grown men with sexual fantasies for kids. **** you, **** all of you.
Oh, and if a kid does try to go meet some silly grown up and she gets fucked up its her fault and that would've happened to her anyways. She wouldnt have lived too long with that kind of mentality. Ever heard of natural selection?
Jesus....
What the hell kind of parent would sit behind their child and watch every single thing they do? If you do that, you should go see a counselor or just give up your child because you're a horrible parent and god hates you.
no. Internet should be in a common area so everyone can see what is going on.
I have my own it is a laptop Im on it right now. My parents trust me a lot and they allways check to make sure I don't have a myspace. I don't like being in my room anyway. I prefer being on my computer downstairs. I only sleep in my room. I guess it depends on the teenager. and whether thay like their room.
No, if they use the computer they can use the one that the whole family uses, whether it be in the office or living room. Too many weirdos out there online- I'd like to keep an eye on my teen.
NO! Internet predators target lonely kids, alone in their room with no one to guard them. The computer should be where the rest of the family spends most of their time, whether that be the living room, kitchen table, or whatever. Parents should always be near at hand when the kid is using the computer, %26amp; should monitor everything they do while on the computer. Does Columbine ring a bell? One vigilant parent can save the lives of more than their own child.
Definitely in the family/living area! Also check out a service I heard about (don't have full deets, sorry) that will alert you via email when your child sends/receives messages that use sexual or harsh language. It also picks up slang and text speak.
Of course, that is with extreme parental controls. Teens should be able to go online and parents should be able to control them while they are online.
I think parental control settings online are the answer.
i agree w/ most of the answers, children should not be unsupervised while on the computer
I don't think it's a ';should'; or ';shouldn't'; question because every family is different and I wouldn't tell another family how to do it or what is right for them.
For us, unattended internet just doesn't seem appropriate. We don't put TV in the kids rooms and I'm not sure about a computer. If we decide to put a computer in their room at some point it will definitely be without internet. If they want to use the internet, they will need to do it in the common room, just like the rest of us.
All I can say is wow, the answers to this question from parents is astounding, some of you take the time to look at everything your child has done online? You probably won't let your child date until they're sixteen. In the next four years I'm sure you'll wonder why your kids are so messed up because they shot their friends. You'll try to blame it anything you consider bad. My god, it must've been Marilyn Manson, and those homosexuals they're the reason my kid killed himself. I'm sure that's what you'll think until twenty years down the line you realize that you failed as a parent by not trusting your children whatsoever. I hope find yourself happy never being able to trust your children. Asshole.
With parental control software and actual parental monitoring.
you can just make sure you block the crazy things out
Nope. Absolutely not.
Well, I'm going to be instantly hated on this post but our kids DO have their own computers and internet (all 3 of them- ages 13, 11, and 10) and we spy on them like you wouldn't believe. I go in about once every 2 days and check to see where they've been, what they've been seeing, who they chat with- it's all logged in the mainframe. And I check their email boxes regularly. We told them when we hooked it up that we reserved the right to look at anything they looked at and we do- regularly. We've only had 1 problem in the last year and that's when my step-son was at his mom's house (not ours) and I checked his email from MY mom's house (I was on vacation visiting family) and some hussy was emailing him about being her boyfriend- well, the picture sure didn't look like someone who'd be interested in a then 12 year old boy... so we got her blocked and talked to my step-son about it. It was probably some sweaty man in disguise trying to lure him to the mall or something. He hasn't had a problem since. He never contacted the person again and we haven't heard from ';it'; either. It's not really about trusting our kids because, clearly my step-son will follow hormones before our advice, but it's about being clever enough to catch something that COULD happen before it does. Besides, they can have the same access at the library with less supervision if they wanted it.
No, Deffinately.. With all the predators and sick people out there you don't want your kids exposed to that. You should have a computer where everyone can see what your doing at any time.
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