VERY often - My parents usually took my side and I in turn took my kids/grandkids' side. There are always 2 sides to every story.
You have to take each occasion on its merit. I don't really hold with all these 'problem kids' - more like problem parents !
All of us have turned out well, regardless of school problems.
I don't think your relationship with one such parent should be affected in any way - they will need their friends at this timeParents, have your teenagers ever been in trouble at school?
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I know that as kids get older, they do not want to be embarrassed around their friends, so I've warned my kids that if they ever intentionally start up problems at school, I will show up in a bathrobe and slippers, with my hair in curlers and no makeup, and chase them around telling them they forgot their Blue's Clues lunchbox. I know someone who cured her son's behavioral problems in one day by doing that!
My high-schooler is a great kid and I don't expect any problems from her, but I worry about my 10yo, who is a total drama queen and tries to be spoiled. I hope she gets better as she gets older, because I get embarrassed easily too and I really don't want to have to go to her school in my jammies! LOL
Also, depends on the problem. Some teens act out because they're depressed or something is upsetting them, so I'd try to find out what was causing the problem first, then deal with it.
Im not a parent but im a teenager for 2 parents!
My sisters Regan and Kayla and my brother Zayne never got into trouble with the school. Maybe the odd occasion about them being late or them being there for half the day than disappearing - which my parents didnt really care they just said 'make sure you tell the school when your leaving, even if your leaving because you want to skip a class'
My brother Jayden (Kayla's twin) was ALWAYS introuble because he was one of those Alpha male jocks who thought he was better than everyone. My parents used to threaten him about sending them to private school and even filled out the transfer application and left it for him to find on his bed (they werent really going to send him, but he always took it as a joke when they said it, so they made it like they werent joking)- which he didnt like. So he used to settle down after they threatened him. Than they'd threat to send him to live with my Uncle who is a reeeeeeeeal hardass guy - doesnt let his boys set a foot wrong if so thats it - so they threatened to send him to live with him and he changed his behaviour quick smart.
Threats worked well with us, we were brought up and new that when our parents told us to do something - we do it. We knew not to push their buttons.. And i would put that on 'good parenting'.
As for what id say to a pre/teen i dont know. Probably threaten them by taking things away, kicking them out, grounding them, sending them to another school, sending them to some facility where they deal with troubled teens.. I think scare tactics would work best. But if you dont jump on their behaviour changes quickly - than you're only destined for a trouble teen.
It all depends on the behaviour.
I'm not a mother but work with kids and am the oldest of 4.
I was always in trouble at school however nothing ever got back to my mum as I was lucky. The one thing that scared me (even in year 11) was things getting back to my mum. However, I carried on as I was too cocky %26amp; knew it probably wouldn't.
However, some things did %26amp; my mum supported me (I rebelled against things such as taking me out of English %26amp; Maths to catch up with ICT gcse work).
However if I was to have drunk in school, my mum would have murdered me!
It all depends on the problems %26amp; what relationship you have with your teenager.
I would say assess the situation, why are they playing up? If it is being the class clown then look at why, it can be due to boredom as the works too easy or because they would rather be labelled as ';naughty'; rather than stupid as they are struggling to do the work. It can be due to other reasons such as bullying, stress etc. The simple of reason of just liking the attention. Perhaps it is for certain teachers. I would often play up for a certain teacher as they made it clear they weren't a big fan of me from the start (probably because I was miles taller than he was and I was only 12, ha ha). Why should I respect someone when they don't like me? That was my view.
You need to question your child %26amp; ask why this behaviour is occuring. Make them see the consequence but let them know you will support them.
If you go in all guns blazing you're more likely to get a reaction in the form of your child getting a dentention for playing up more than usual :)
Do everything on their level but make them see that if it doesn't improve there will be a consequence. For example, extra chores.
However, don't take away something you've already given. If you give them something for having a good week (games %26amp; dvds) then don't take it off them as they've already earnt it, that'll just cause more anger.
Hope this helps, sorry it's long! %26amp; good luck xx
I'm not a parent, but I've been in trouble at school before. My parents played the disappointed card on me, so I told them why I was misbehaving.
Play the disappointed card, try and see if there is a reason (like bullying) that he is misbehaving (as that is what happened with me). Oh, and I sorted out my behaviour after my mum had been to the school to talk to the Head Teacher
well im a teenager, and i always get into trouble at school, i always get detentions my mum goes absolutley balistic when i get intotrouble seeing as she is paying 12 thousand pounds a year for my education, but im not changing my behavior, its the way i am and if she doesnt like it well she needs to get over it1
I'm A Teen; %26amp; I got Suspeneded 2 Times, 1st Was My Fault [cell phone; texting all the time], %26amp; 2nd Was Not My Fault [when this chick started a fight with me and punched me and i knocked her down] %26amp; I Dententions Sometimes, Oh Well x]
Hi,my eldest lad was nothing but trouble %26amp; the more we got involved the worse he got.When he turned 16 he changed into a nice young lad.
Good Luck
Well in 4th class i was a nightmare to teachers but i got to a new school and learned my lesson as the teachers in this school are very strict
im no parent but im a teen i have gotten into trouble at school, but my mum saw my point of view and y i did it so i didn't really matter
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